Real Talk My Boss is Sleeping With My Husband

Real Talk My Boss is Sleeping With My Husband Awkward work relationships of any kind can make the schreibstube an awful place to be. But one FGBer is living our workplace nightmare.My boss is sleeping with my husband, she wrote to the Community.My boss is horrible to me and not very pleasant to other coworkers (dont know why she thinks shes entitled). Well, I just found out that shes sleeping with my husband, who also works at the same company. What can I do?Almost 20 FGBers reached out to offer support to her, and gave their own advice on the situation.Wow, this is so awful, and Im sorry this happened to you, one poster wrote. Highly recommend getting a new job and leaving your husband. No one deserves to be treated this wayI would find proof and go to HR. This is abuse of power by your boss. Wow, another FGBer added.A third said This really sucks. You need to verify that its true, then divorce him. He chose to cheat on you no matter if its with your boss or anyone else. Then, ask yourself if you really want to stay there at that job. Your soon-to-be ex works there. Find another job without his knowledge (or your bosss). This is key Then, you can leave both of them. You may want to seek someone you can talk to to help you through this stressful time.While we cannot tell you specifically to divorce your husband or leave your job, you need to put yourself first in this situation.But putting yourself first is subjective. If aside from your boss you truly love your job and your workplace, you should fight to stay. You have done no wrong, and you shouldnt be forced to leave because of others decisions. However, it is important to think about whether you can continue to work in a place where this has been happening behind your back.Why should she have to leave her job? What if its her dream job?, one woman asked in response to the post. They are the ones who are being crappy people. I say, find proof. File for divorce. Report it to her boss. Maybe theyll leave eit her by choice or at the request of upper management.Another FGBer recommended seeking legal advice.It is important to protect yourself, your place in the company and your assets in this kind of situation.Get a lawyer. Now, she said. Protect your assets, remove his name as beneficiary from insurance policies, retirement accounts, etc. Put your paycheck in a separate account that he cant access. If you are co-signed on any loans, get your liability removed. Depending on company policy, you may be able to report both of them for having a relationship within the chain of command. Otherwise, there may not be anything else you can do about that. Once you have your assets protected, get an escape/exit plan. Your lawyer can help with that.Again, we recommend taking this time to think about what you want and what will make you happy, whether that includes taking legal action, searching for a new job, separating from your husband or choosing to work it out.If you have your own question, reach out to the Community to receive advice from other FGBers.